Monday, 22 September 2014

Life is better with friends

A wonderful weekend

On Saturday Becky and I went to a nearby lake with some other international students and spent a few hours there reading and chatting. It was super pretty, and there was a little fake beach at the side of the lake that was perfect in the beautiful sunshine. I got to know some girls from Thursday better, and met another girl who had some very cool things to say and who told Becky about a live performance of Rocky Horror that night! So we got back and I had some Oreo ice cream from Yum Yums because it was that kind of day, then we studied, ate and slept until it was time to get ready and go. It was absolutely insane and we loved it! So that's one thing I can tick off my bucket list. We got back at 3am though.

Sunday was incredible. We got up early despite the late night and started the drive to Boone to see Ian and some beautiful mountain views! It was super exciting driving down and watching the landscape change as we got closer and closer to the mountains. I also saw a sign for a Volunteer Fire Department on the way which made me happy because of the Lemony Snicket books. When we arrived Ian showed us around his very cool, hippy dude style apartment, and it was so good to see him and really interesting to see where/how he lived. We headed down the road for lunch at a Mexican restaurant which was great because not only was the food delicious but we got served really quickly - ten times faster than in England! After dinner we visited the local town, which was super cute and full of diverse people (but mostly hippies). We saw a motorcycle gang drive down the main road with one member in a skeleton mask just seconds after walking past a group of barefoot hippies braiding some beautiful bracelets. We went into Mast General Store that sold a whole variety of things from sweets to hiking gear and I got myself a little handmade photo block that says 'You are Loved' because I wanted something special that reminded me of this trip without it being some corny souvenir. After that Ian took us to explore his University campus. So many statues! If I remember correctly they have three libraries, which as a book nerd I find fabulous, if I'm wrong then the one Ian took us to would make up for numbers in it's elegance. Their observatory was also pretty cool, with a whole rooftop of telescopes. After our tour and lots of catch up chat while we walked, it was time to head back and change ready for our hikes in the mountains!

This is the place where I will run out of words. Not because there isn't anything to say/describe, but because the entire experience was innately indescribable. Ian drove us all to the trail for Beacon Heights, and we began the short hike to the outlook. It was super cool to hike up paths that were more nature than human-made, but the whole thing was making me pine for my brother. I had a nice chat with Becky about brothers and exploring on the way up, but when we got to the outlook we just stopped because it was breathtaking. We emerged from the trees onto the stone and into the open air. We could see for miles across the gorgeous tree-covered mountains and I stood for a good few seconds in awe of what I was seeing. We got a group photo and sat down together to appreciate the view. Ian asked if we'd ever wished we could fly. Sitting above the trees gazing across the landscape certainly gave me a taste of how it would feel, but sitting there with my friends in that moment was enough of a dream come true for me. I think Becky and I had an overwhelming sense of gratefulness to our friends for making this possible, because she started to say thank you at the same second that I had been thinking how to say it.

After a long while enjoying that view, we walked the trail to the other side. As I stepped out of the trees onto the other outlook I turned to Ian to say that the view would never get old, and he told me 'It never does'. Some people think that once you've seen one mountain view you've seen them all, but that is certainly not the case. The views change continually as the visibility changes, so there's always something new to see. While up there we got talking to a super sweet, super interesting old couple who I could happily have talked to all day. It's rare to meet people who can sustain conversation so well, and it was an absolute privilege to hear what the lady had to say to Ian and I while her husband talked to Becky and Sarah. We talked about birds, landscape, books, the power of education, the fact that we hear more about evil than good and what effect that has on society, Cicero, the problems Ian faces becoming a teacher in today's society, the beauty of different landscapes in different countries, and so much more that I wish I could remember. She congratulated Ian and I on being 'awake', which is an incredible compliment because it is so important to me. After saying goodbye to the lovely couple we headed back to the car for another adventure.

Sarah was feeling tired and poorly so sadly felt it would be best for her to stay in the car while Ian, Becky and I hiked up to Rough Ridge. This hike was a little more strenuous because Becky and I have short legs and the 'steps' we had to take were a little further apart than was comfortable. Nevertheless, it was well worth the extra effort. It isn't often that the view you see with your own two eyes beats the professional photograph on the front of a postcard, but that was one moment it certainly did. Waking up this morning I felt like the entire day and everything I had the privilege of seeing could have all been a dream. We took our photographs to prove that it was all real and that we had really stood there, then sat down together on the edge of the rock and enjoyed watching the light change the landscape. As the light moved, new areas became visible as others lost clarity. Every second that we sat there we had something new to see. In that moment, sitting between two of my favourite people on the top of a mountain, I realised that I am content with my life. No, everything is not perfect and there have certainly been a lot of hiccups, but I wouldn't change a thing. I am content, and for that I am so so grateful. I just can't wait for my next adventure, and to meet all the wonderful people that I am going to continue to meet and love. So we sat up there feeling content and enjoying the view until the wind forced us to head back down to the car.

Before we left the mountains, Ian drove us through a wall of fog to Thunder Hill, where we stood at the edge of the road at watched the fog rising up out of trees across the mountains. It was so surreal to watch the fog rise in what looked like tufts from random spots on the mountains. The cold pushed as back into the car after a few minutes and we said goodbye to the mountains.

Sarah went to eat with her sister but Becky, Ian and I went to a place called Come Back Shack for dinner, a burger place where every ingredient is locally sourced and (I think) organic. I'd used up pretty much all the money I'd brought for the day on fuel, lunch and the souvenirs, but luckily I'd brought food with me so I ate that and just shared fries and chips with Becky at the restaurant. We talked about ISIS, governments, international laws and police, terrorism, rights, and time flying by. I was reminded again of how much I enjoy talking to Ian face to face, rather than by Facebook messaging where our conversation feels restrained to small talk. Ian talked about how much time had just flown for him, as he is in his final year and about to step out into the world. As he was talking about how fast it feels like we age, I was felt sad at the realisation that the next time I see him could be a decade away, when he will have lived through so much more and we will all have changed so much. But when we all headed back to the apartment and Sarah was ready to go home, saying goodbye wasn't as awful as it could have been. Although I miss Ian already, and will miss my other international friends when we say goodbye on Saturday, I will keep in mind what Sarah told me: If you have people in your life that you miss, just remember how blessed you are that you have people in your life who love and care about you and who you love and care about enough to miss. So that's what I am going to hold onto when I get on my plane home this Saturday. I'm going to remember that regardless how soon or distant our next meeting is, and however far the distance is between us, I have been blessed in my friends and nothing can change what they will always mean to me.

Things that I've learned this week:
Life is better with friends, and I am so lucky in mine.
The importance of kindness and kind people.
That I really need to get over my English reservedness and start actually talking to people the way my friends here do.
How important it is to explore and examine this life and our world. If we don't keep asking questions and learning then we can never grow.

I wrote a postcard to my sister today and I just really wanted to tell Imogen about the importance of friendship and kindness above everything else, because standing on top of those mountains yesterday is an opportunity that would not have been available to me without those things.

Apologies for getting all philosophical with you, but I don't know how anyone could see what I saw and not feel this way. It's no wonder almost everyone in Boone is a hippy if that's where they live.

Saturday, 20 September 2014

Coffee shops and new friends

I've been here for a good few days now and have been too busy or tired to write!

There have been a hell of a lot of names to learn, and a couple of people have made regular appearances this week which is nice. We've spent a lot of time in this cute little coffee shop on Tate Street, and the other day Becky and I were joined by a few friends and had a lovely afternoon talking about music and writing while sipping delicious coffee.

I've only spent one day fully on my own. Becky needed to work on an essay and catch up on sleep really badly, so I decided to go exploring. I found my way downtown (eventually - road signs are confusing here!) to Greensboro Historical Museum, which was a thoroughly interesting museum about the history of this state. I learned about the Quakers, slavery, feminism, the civil war, and the local people. The museum staff were super lovely which made the whole thing even better. Walking back was much easier, and Sarah collected me from the lovely coffee shop. She and Hollyn went straight out to church after dropping me off, and I spent the evening eating, watching movies, and eventually video calling Ian to talk about our visit to Boone on Sunday. It was a little awkward but all things considered it could have been a lot worse, and it was really nice to see him again. It's been difficult for the rest of us to get a response out of him about visiting but it looks like we're good to go now.

Sarah has said she'll take me to some more museums next week if I'm interested, so that should be cool.

On Thursday night Becky and I went clubbing with some other internationals, which was kinda fun. It totally sucks going back to being underage after a year of being able to drink legally at home! I feel like the club we went to is the kind of place where you need to be at least tipsy if you want to enjoy it fully. We were on a rooftop, though, which was super cool. It was a really cool night aside from the one style of dancing that all the Americans insist on doing - grinding. Not pretty, and actually makes it a little scary to go there as a woman. Overall it was a good night.

We meant to go out to a different club (less grinding more salsa) last night but despite two coffees we were totally shattered and couldn't find anyone to go with us anyway. Instead, we curled up with some popcorn on two sofas that had been pushed together and watched He's Just Not That Into You.

I'm not sure why we were so tired yesterday because all we did was study and go to an amazing cupcake shop called Maxy B's, where I ate an absolutely delicious gluten free chocolate cupcake! There were loads of flavours to choose from normally but sadly my gluten intolerance meant I could only have chocolate, vanilla, or chocolate and pumpkin.

It's super nice here and I'm really looking forward to going to Boone tomorrow!

Monday, 15 September 2014

Oh hey there, America

Sorry it's been a while, things have been pretty hectic lately.

Hello from America!

I arrived in Greensboro, North Carolina last night after an exhausting and eventful outward journey. As always I barely slept before we headed to Manchester airport (at 3am) so I was tired as well as nervous. It didn't help that I had received an email from United Airlines telling me that my Munich to Washington flight was delayed by over 2 hours, which meant that unless they caught up time I would miss my connecting flight to my final destination. First flight was alright, although I felt a little nauseous with nerves and it had taken forever to get through security. My second flight was still delayed, and so I had way too much time to waste and not enough water to drink. When I found somewhere to buy water, I was so stressed I left my jumper, passport and boarding pass on the counter! Luckily I realised quickly and ran back to pick them up. The second flight was horrible because it was so long and I can't sleep on planes. I ended up watching two films - Transcendence (great film) and the new X-Man (alright film) - and still had over two hours left to try and get some sleep. I slept fitfully, despite being so exhausted. Arrived late in Washington and was told that I had been put on a flight to Greensboro on Sunday afternoon, and would therefore have to collect my bag and stay overnight. Luckily the airline provided a hotel voucher and food vouchers, so I didn't have to think about claiming on my insurance.

After a horrible stressful moment about my luggage and a tearful phone call with mum I made my way through the maze that is Washington IAD, used one meal voucher for a hot chocolate, water and fruit from a lovely man who was super nice and gave me directions to the shuttle bus for the hotel. Now I was expecting a Travelodge type thing, but this hotel was super fancy, and I was so grateful to be able to go to sleep in a lovely room with a comfy bed.

Sunday
I took my time getting ready to leave the hotel, and made use of the coffee machine and chaise lounge in my room, which was pretty cool. Luckily I had the fruit and some other bits that I could eat for breakfast so I didn't have to use my last voucher at the hotel restaurant. Getting through the airport was very uneventful so I chilled at the gate watching Eddie Izzard videos and letting my friends know what was happening. The flight was horribly noisy but luckily very quick. I had a wonderful taxi driver who was chatting away to me the whole time, and gave me his number so that I could call him to pick me up for the return journey.
I arrived at my friend Sarah's apartment at 7 I think, and it was so so good to see her! We picked Becky (ahh I was so excited to see this girl!!) and had dinner at Hop's with Sarah's roommate Hollyn. They had gluten free vegetation burgers! It got very confused ordering my burger because in America you choose every component, and I'd only ever had a burger from McDonald's where unless you specify what you don't want then there isn't as much choice. Other than the confusion the meal was great and it was great to catch up with my girls and get to know Hollyn.
The workload is crazy here, so we spent the rest of the night studying (and getting distracted talking about boys) in the library.
It was a really nice day, and I am so grateful to my mum and all my friends for keeping me chilled through the more stressful parts of my journey.

Today (Monday) I am meeting up with Becky after her class so we shall see what today brings!

Things learned on the outward journey:
Do not attempt travelling to America on your own if you get stressed very easily and don't have a sense of adventure. I'm lucky because although I get stressed easily I do have a sense of adventure, and that meant that I could recover easier from the stress and look back on it all with a smile.
Try and find some kind people to help you or just be kind to you, because they make the world feel 10x less scary.
If it's free, use it or eat it!!